Somebody sent a forward to me today which made me a bit confused (though I loved it :)). The forward had a smiley picture and quoted ” Happy Women’s Day – Officially 8th March, Unofficially Everyday “. Although I believe it myself but is it really?
Well for women like me who have been lucky in here-educated to a certain level that we got a corporate job. We are working as per our wish not only to financially aid the family or even for that, for some of us.Brought up in a family where atleast few of them if not all supported me being a girl. Some of us who have got a partner who understand that just by being men they are not superior, and being around some colleagues who respect us women in some manner, this day may be “unofficially” be everyday…but what about some other unfortunate ones- does this celebrating or announcing a day officially matter?Do the women even care?
For such sect of women who can again be divided into 2 kind. One kind being them that are uneducated/educated less,who work as mason,maid,daily wage workers and many more such roles whose pay is meager- for them a day to be celebrated as women’s day- who cares?They are more worried that they wont be able to earn that day or spend much more than they earn for such a day. So they would rather not have such a day am sure..And also sure that they wouldn’t be aware of existence of such day.
And the second kind, being the one,who are in no ways independent-those small girls born to family where they feel they are a burden or more, a curse, those girls who are married off early to another such family where they have to go through the same kind of cruelty or more than they had received in their ‘own’ house, those girls who are treated as dirt,such commodity,as workers in their own house-for them they would be cursing that they are women to even celebrate a day for women’s day.They would rather make mockery of such a day then even acknowledge it,forget celebrating.
For that matter all of us who might have been luckier and independent in many ways, who feel lucky to be women and some of us proud,is there really a day to be officially celebrated as women’s day? Why? What happens different that day rather than just people wishing for the sake.Am sure most of us dont need that one day to be an official Women’s day but rather make everyday unofficially a women’s day when–
We do not have to think twice for just merely being dressed- in anything we want to wear
We do not have to contemplate twice before we eat a couple of sweets extra cos of being fat and be shamed on our weight
We do not have to think twice to wander alone whether in broad day light or middle of night , amidst a crowded place or a secluded one
When we wear a makeup just cos we like it and not cos how people would like to see us
When we are not judged just cos our lips are coloured a shade too red or a dress worn too short or had an extra glass of beer
When we are not expected to leave the job /career cos the man in the family has to earn more or we have certain more “responsibilities- back at home”
When we are not advised to get married/ borne babies cos of body clock or societal pressure
When we are not labelled being aggressive or loud or rude cos of our growth in professional front
When we are not questioned on our decision making capabilities- personally or professionally as “women are always confused”- its not we are confused, its just that we want best of both things
When any problem in a household is not blamed by neighbors on the daughter/wife/daughter in law of the house
When every other joke being made on wives curtailed
When women riding/driving , map reading ,technical capabilities are appreciated more than their cooking,cleaning capabilities
When women are thought of much much more than just being a good daughter, sister,wife or mother.
When women views are taken seriously-be it political,sports, economics,science,realty etc than only in relationship,healthcare,parenting etc
And this is possible only when the men and some women (included) thought process changes, their attitude towards women changes,the perspective of all men and women are in the same direction, not just in my village,my city,my state or my country but then everywhere else, with everyone,only then it would mean to wish a “Happy Women’s Day” anyday.